Those who have endured the death of a parent, grandparent or other loved one experience a profound feeling of loss. People grieve in different ways, and for me the death of a loved one becomes a time of deep though and reflection. Though I did not know her personally, such as been the case with the recent death of Terri Schiavo. My thoughts are of her family and polar difference between the reactions of Michael Schiavo compared with Mr. and Mrs. Schindler and Terri’s siblings.
Grief work consists of feelings of loneliness, sadness, prayer and tears. This is our human reaction to a tragedy. Death, though a profound bridge between this life and eternal life, is often a tragedy for loved ones left behind. Funerals, counseling, family time and other activities help the grieving person to cope with their loss.
Though largely ignored, grief work is an important part of healing after abortion. Women and men who have an abortion in their past often endure months or years of feelings of loss and incompleteness, not knowing their loss is due to their participation in the death of a fellow human being. They do not know how to properly grieve, nor that they should grieve.
Neither the pro-life movement nor the pro-choice movement knew in the 1960s and early 1970s that abortion would produce long-term psychological and emotional effects on the women and men who sought this path after news of an unexpected pregnancy. Now, programs such as Rachel’s Vineyard and institutes such as the Elliot Institute have extensive research and programs to study the after-effects of abortion.
So… my question is… in 30 years, where will the Michael Schiavo’s of our world be? Will he have realized in a profound way the abuse he perpetuated against Terri Schaivo? How will he express his sorrow and grief? How will his heart be healed?
I welcome your thoughts and comments.