Monday, March 3, 2014

Dear Abby's misguided advice

A woman writes to "Dear Abby" today confessing a past abortion and explaining how this may have had an effect in her daughter's life and their mother-daughter relationship.

Dear Abby's response? 
The fact that you aborted a child before your daughter's birth has nothing to do with her.
I immediately accessed her website and sent the following reply:
Dear Abby,
I read today's advice with dismay. I believe that your advice that "The fact that you aborted a child before your daughter's birth has nothing to do with her" is misguided. Many children suffer emotional and psychological distress over the knowledge of a parent's abortion-- whether before or after his/her birth. Although the DSM doesn't recognize abortion as a life event that causes psychological trauma, in many cases, it does. For this reason, there are many abortion recovery ministries, many sponsored by churches, to help women and men forgive themselves and accept God's forgiveness for participating in the murder of a child. For siblings of aborted children, these ministries can help them to recognize that their sibling is in heaven with God, and to forgive their parents for this mistake.

A sibling would be disturbed psychologically by the murder of his born sibling. Why should it be different for his unborn sibling?

Please search for a phrase like "aborted siblings" online and read some articles and stories on this topic.

Thank you for listening to my comments.