Saturday, September 12, 2015

Share my body... now share my bed?

O boy. I never thought I'd think this: maybe bedsharing with a nursing infant is the way to go?

I shunned the idea from the first I had ever heard of it, mostly because ten years ago, a couple at my aunt's parish rolled over their infant in the night, crushing him. The very though of co-sleeping with a babe has been the furthest from my mind since then.

And, I can't fail to mention that while I knew of some families who did this, all of the professional voices I heard from baby experts to my parents warned me of the inherent dangers of such a practice.

Plus, no one ever told me how to do such a thing.

Until... now.

I'm constantly reading up on some aspect of my new profession, that is, motherhood. From Montessori education to nutrition to baby care, I have a constant book-on-loan from our local library or book-in-transit from

So when a recent book, Diaper Free, suggested that along with no diapers, bedsharing is the way to go with a nursing infant, I ventured to read up on it. This led me to  several books including the out-of-print Three in a Bed.

Eventually, due to the friend's influence that I mentioned in an earlier post, I found a surprising ally in the bedsharing phenomenon in La Lech League, and they have a new campaign to promote "Safe Sleep" with infants through their book, Sweet Sleep.

The benefits of bedsharing include:
  • decreased or eliminated risk of SIDS
  • better sleep for mom and baby
  • baby doesn't need to cry to nurse, only needs to nudge mom... or if mom is topless, just latch on while she continues to snooze
  • immediate help for baby for elimination (if you so choose to do the diaper-free method)
  • emotional security for baby
  • save money on not buying crib or getting larger home with separate bedroom for nursery
  • it's just snuggly!
So, with so many benefits, why don't midwives help moms learn to bedshare after birth? I certainly wasn't made aware of any of these benefits nor was I helped to understand how to safely bedshare if I was going to consider doing it.

That's why I love La Leche League's campaign for Safe Sleep. The two biggest "aha" moments for me in learning about safe bedsharing are:
  • do no swaddle the baby: baby could become too warm, and baby can't flail his arms/legs to tell you when he's in distress or hungry
  • you both will actually sleep better
So, now it's time for me to consider what I'll do when the next babe come along. I already gave away the crib... so you can guess what I plan to do!

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Vaccination as a requirement for US Citizenship?

They're treating it like it's HIV. Or worse. But it's the chicken pox.

Two MLB players have been diagnosed with the chicken pox and sent home for several weeks to recover, missing several baseball games. 

It's the chicken pox, people. It's not that big of a deal. Well, at least it used to not be that big of a deal, back when kids routinely got it... and happily got out of a week or more of school as a result. As described (accurately) in the article, the chicken pox isn't that serious for kids. The older you are, or if you have a weak immune system, the risks go up. But, generally speaking, it means itchy blisters and rash and fatigue. 

But, apart from it being a generally benign illness that could actually have beneficial future outcome for those that contract it (meaning: it reduces or eliminates your risk of getting the far more serious illness Shingles later in life... but now Shingles is on the rise!), the part that shocked me the most about the news was the speculative reason why these two ball players got the pox:
Yost said shortstop Alcides Escobar was vaccinated just recently as part of requirements for citizenship, though it's unclear whether that may have introduced the virus to the clubhouse.


You mean that prospective citizens are required to get vaccinated in order to become American?! 

How unabashedly UN-American is that?!

First of all, we don't require folks to have vaccinations in order to visit our country, and folks visiting and traveling may even come into contact with more people than those moving here. Further, if the efficacy of vaccines is questioned by many, then why are vaccines being shoved into the bodies of future Americans as some sort of savior? These people are moving to the United States in order to have more freedoms, not to have them taken away.

I could say a lot about vaccinations right now, but I'll just leave you with this noteworthy observation from a chiropractor in Florida:
We’ve essentially swapped one form of the disease for another, without considering the costs or risks associated with kicking the burden down the line.  
Is that the end result we're asking for by forcing vaccinations?

Saturday, August 29, 2015

What "Children's Rights" means to me now

I would have never imagined ten years ago when I started this blog where my life would have turned out. When I was single, I would get my kicks from blogging nightly on some topic from women's rights to Church issues. My experiences in the the trenches of the respect-for-life movement spurred on my thoughts.

Yes, I'm still involved with the pro-life, anti-abortion movement through prayer and participation, though I am no longer involved in leadership. But now: I'm a mom.

My perceptions of life have stayed the same, and in many ways they have solidified by my motherhood. For one, a whole new understanding of the meaning of "Children's Rights" has opened up to me. As I write this, I have the memories of the hug of a 14 month old around my neck and arms. I think she's beautiful, and I am honored to be her mother.

It has occurred to me recently what great importance breastfeeding has in the life of a new child. My mother nursed myself and my three siblings. My sister breastfeed her two children. I always knew innately that "breast was best" and that I'd do everything I could to make it a success if/when I became a mom.

Thankfully, we did it. We nursed for 12 and a half months.  When I started breastfeeding and first heard of La Leche League, I laughed. A support group for breastfeeding?! Most unusual!

Thankfully, I staved off the "lactation consultant" during our hospital stay at birth who came in to see if we had trouble. I had heard from friends that these ladies will take Baby's head in one hand and my breast in the other, showing me just how to nurse. I was sickened by that thought, and I'm sure it was Divine Intervention that kept those ladies' hands away from me. But, after that, I thought the last thing I wanted to do was get near women who may want to tell me how to nurse.

As it turns out, I had my ups and downs in breastfeeding, and my mom and sister were there to answer the questions I had.

Last week a dear friend, mom to a six month old whom she's still nursing, convinced me to read La Leche League's The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. My child is already weaned... but I still learned so much for the next one around (please, God, soon!)  They are unabashed in their insistence on the goodness of breastfeeding not only for the infant's nutrition, but for the mother-baby relationship, the mom's health, the longevity of nursing relationships, and more! I was most impressed and hope for the opportunity to put into practice all they said.

While not all moms are able to breastfeed, I guess the long-and-short of is: I hope that all moms and babies are able to spend extended time together in one anothers' arms, loving each other without the din of the world saying they're so much else you could be doing rather than just being in love with baby.

Please! Let's respect, condone, and enable mothers to be mothers!